Beyond Believing: Helping Christian Women Heal Post Divorce

E:86: After My Divorce, God Showed Me I Wasn’t Ready for Boaz

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After my divorce, I was convinced I was ready for a godly relationship. I had done the work. The case for my own readiness was strong.
What I did not see is that I was building a case — not asking a question. And underneath all of that real, sincere preparation was a question I had never stopped to ask: God, is this the season You are calling me into? Or is this the season I have decided it is?
In this episode I walk through the story of Ruth with the cultural context most of us never learned — not to show you how to find your Boaz, but to show you what Ruth built before he ever looked up.
If you are a divorced Christian woman who is tired of watching the horizon — this episode is for you.
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CHAPTER MARKERS
0:00 — You might not be ready for the relationship you are praying for
0:38 — Welcome
1:20 — What I called ready
3:00 — I was building a case
4:30 — The woman who stopped wanting Boaz
6:00 — Surrendering vs. suppressing
6:30 — Ruth: who she was before the field
8:00 — What gleaning actually was
9:30 — Boaz arrived — and she didn’t know he existed
11:00 — Posture 1: full presence in the field she was in
12:00 — Posture 2: eyes on her assignment, not who might notice
13:00 — Posture 3: character that speaks before she does
14:00 — God brought Ruth to Boaz — not because she found him
14:30 — She was found
15:00 — Apply for coaching
 
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E:85: After My Divorce, God Showed Me I Was Never Alone

If you are exhausted by a pain that never seems to end — this episode is for you.
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After my divorce, I kept arriving at the same pain. Different person. Different hope. Same destination. I used to tell myself loneliness was the hardest part.
What God showed me is that nothing is more painful than giving yourself to someone who cannot recognize your worth. And more than that — I was the common denominator. That is the best news I ever received about my own life.
In this episode I walk through two women: the one who keeps reaching for relationships, and the one who has shut that door and turned toward her children instead. Both are running the same pattern. And both are asking people to carry what only God can hold.
Scripture: Psalm 143:6  ·  1 Corinthians 3:1-2  ·
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CHAPTER MARKERS
0:00 — Same pain, different people
0:38 — Welcome
1:20 — The pattern: what it looks like for the chaser
3:00 — The cutoff: what she is asking her children to carry
5:30 — The best news I ever received
6:30 — Psalm 143:6 — the parched land
8:00 — Augustine: our heart is restless
9:30 — 1 Corinthians: milk vs. meat
11:30 — Knowing vs. experiencing His presence
12:00 — Three questions to carry out today
13:30 — C.S. Lewis: the cottage and the palace
14:30 — You are not broken
16:00 — Apply for coaching
 
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E:84: God Doesn't Need You to Be the Heroine — He Needs You to Tell the Truth

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After my divorce, I told my story the same way every time. What I lost. What was taken. What it cost me. I thought that was honesty.
What God showed me is that a story centered on what was done to you has no room for what He has done through it.
In this episode I walk through the Christus Victor theology, the etymology of the word victim, and Proverbs 23:7 to show you why the way you tell your story is producing who you are becoming — and how to tell the whole truth.
God doesn't need you to be the heroine. He needs you to be the witness.
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Chapter Markers 
0:00  —  I was leaving God out of my story
0:38  —  Welcome
1:15  —  The story I kept telling
3:00  —  Who is at the center?
5:30  —  The word victim — what it actually means
7:30  —  Christus Victor — He went as victor, not victim
9:00  —  Proverbs 23:7 — as she thinks, so she becomes
10:30  —  The whole truth
12:00  —  Three questions to carry
13:30  —  Oswald Chambers — who is the Source?
14:30  —  Not the heroine — the witness
15:00  —  Apply for coaching
 
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E:83: I Thought My Ex Was the Problem. God Showed Me I Was Creating It.

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I thought the conflict in my life was coming from my ex. My church. The people who judged my divorce. I was wrong.
In this episode I walk through what Jesus was actually teaching in Matthew 7 — the beam and the speck — and show you why it is not just a humility lesson. It is a mechanism. And once you see it, you cannot unsee it in your own daily life.
If you are exhausted by a conflict that never seems to end — this episode is for you.
Scripture: Matthew 7:3-5 · Proverbs 23:7  · 
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0:00  —  I thought my ex was the problem
0:38  —  Welcome
1:15  —  The list I kept making
3:00  —  You have a list too
5:30  —  What Matthew 7 is actually teaching
7:30  —  The beam you cannot see
9:00  —  When you become what you are focused on
10:30  —  Your ex isn't the problem
12:00  —  What I learned fighting for my marriage
13:30  —  Mirror vs. window — John Piper
15:00  —  Apply for coaching
 
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E:82: Are You Ready for Love After Divorce? What God Actually Says

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Most women after divorce are fighting hard for love. Or fighting hard to avoid it. They're just fighting the wrong battle.
In this episode I walk through two biblical stories — the Benjaminites in Judges 20 and Sarai in Genesis 16 — that show two different versions of the same mistake.
Then I share a relationship I believed was God's promise fulfilled, what I was asking throughout it, and what the ending finally taught me about the one question that changes everything.
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Chapter Markers 
0:00  —  Sarai: faith, promise, 25 years — and still got it wrong
0:38  —  Welcome — this episode is for both of you
1:20  —  The Benjaminites: how vs if
3:30  —  40,000 men lost — and why
5:00  —  The question that changed everything on day three
6:00  —  Sarai and the word 'perhaps'
7:30  —  'Is anything too hard for the Lord?'
9:00  —  Your version of 'perhaps'
9:30  —  The part I need you to hear
10:00  —  The relationship I thought was my Boaz
12:00  —  What I was asking the whole time
13:30  —  The wound that stays fresh
14:30  —  The questions that changed everything
15:00  —  You are not broken
16:00  —  Apply for coaching
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E:81: After My Divorce, God Used My Loneliness to Speak to Me

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The loneliness after divorce is not the absence of the right people. It is the presence of God — and you don't recognize it yet because you have never been still enough to hear Him.
In this episode I walk through the complete story of Elijah in 1 Kings 19 — from the juniper tree to the cave to the still small voice — and show you why every beat of that story was written for the season you are in right now. And I share the six words God said to me in my living room the night I finally stopped filling the quiet.
God is not in the storm. He is in the whisper. And the whisper is carrying a map.
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Chapter Markers 
0:38  —  Welcome
1:15  —  What I filled the quiet with
3:30  —  The loneliness is not what you think
5:30  —  Elijah: after his greatest victory
7:00  —  The angel came twice — the preparation
8:30  —  Forty days in the strength of that food
9:30  —  The cave — where you are right now
11:00  —  'What are you doing here?'
12:00  —  The storms — and why God wasn't in them
13:00  —  The six words
15:00  —  The map God has for you
15:30  —  You are at the cave entrance
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E:80: After Divorce, God Showed Me My Strength Was Keeping Me Stuck

If you've spent years holding everything together, this episode is for you.
Today I'm unpacking two lies the strong woman carries that feel like facts — and what happens when you finally see them for what they are.
We go to Luke 10, where Martha brings her exhaustion to Jesus not to complain, but to ask Him to solve a problem she assigned herself.
And I share what changed in my own life when I stopped managing and started receiving.
Same facts. Different thought. Completely different life.
Scripture: 2 Corinthians 12:9 · Proverbs 31:26 · Luke 10:41–42 · Isaiah 40:31
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E:79: Why Remarriage Won't Heal What Divorce Broke

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Remarriage won't heal what divorce broke. Not as a warning. As the most freeing thing I know how to say to you.
You have a list.
Maybe you haven't written it down. But it's there. When this settles. When he stops. When I find someone. When the kids are okay. When life looks like what it was supposed to look like. Then I'll have peace.
In this episode I'm sharing something personal — a belief I carried into my own marriage that I had to see before I could unlearn it. Not because it was a bad belief. Because it was producing results I didn't want. And when I finally saw it, I couldn't unsee it. And I can't let you stay in that list without showing you what I found.
I'm also showing you that the Bible has been teaching this principle — that our thoughts shape our feelings, which drive our actions, which produce our results — long before any coach or therapist gave it a name. Paul understood it. David understood it. Hannah lived it.
We spend real time in Philippians 4:11 today. Paul uses a Greek word — autarkes, pronounced ow-TAHR-kace — that means contented, sufficient, not dependent on external conditions. And he says he LEARNED it. In prison. Which means it is a skill. Which means it is available to you right now, in this season, before a single thing on your list changes.
And we close with Hannah. A woman who wept bitterly, poured everything out, surrendered the outcome — and in verse 18, before her prayer was answered, her face was no longer downcast. That is the invitation for you today.
IF THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU:
You are doing everything right and still waiting to feel okay.
You believe the next season will finally give you peace — and part of you suspects that might not be true.
You want the next relationship to be different but you're not sure how to make that happen.
You want to stop waiting and start living. In this season. As this woman.
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E:78: After My Divorce, God Revealed This About Me

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I learned a seven-word prayer after my divorce that changed everything. The first thing God showed me had nothing to do with my ex — and everything to do with me.
Ephesians 5:6 says let no one deceive you with empty words.
No one.
Not your ex. Not the culture. Not the voices around you. But here is what that verse means that most of us have never sat with: that “no one” includes you. Your own mind. The stories you have been telling yourself so long they stopped feeling like stories and started feeling like facts.
In this episode I’m sharing the prayer that cracked all of that open for me. Seven words I first heard from Francis Chan — and what happened the first time I prayed them and actually meant them.
The first thing God revealed was not about my ex. It was about love. What I believed love was. What I had been taught it required of me. How I had spent years trying to earn something God had already given me freely. That revelation became my “Lessons from the Father” series. It started as one layer coming off.
I also share a framework in this episode that I use with every client: the difference between deception and God’s voice. Deception consumes — you spin, you spiral, you research, you rehearse, and you end up exactly where you started. God creates — His word produces something. Movement. Clarity. Fruit. The burning bush in Exodus 3 is the image: it burns without being consumed. That is what His presence does.
And I share a moment — a conversation with my child — where the prayer produced something I did not expect: a story I had been holding about my ex, dismantled. Not because he was right. Because I had incomplete information. And the prayer made me willing to see that.
The close includes three reflection questions I want you to sit with this week. The last one is the hardest. And the most important.
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THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:
You are circling the same thoughts about your ex and nothing is shifting.
You think your discernment is clear — but you are not sure anymore.
You have been consumed by the story of what happened and you are exhausted by it.
You want to hear God’s voice more clearly but you cannot separate it from everything else.
You are willing to ask the hard question: Am I willing to be wrong?
SCRIPTURE REFERENCED
Ephesians 5:6  ·  Exodus 3:2  ·  Matthew 7:3-5  ·  2 Corinthians 10:5
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RELATED EPISODES
EP 75: How Do You Know What’s True? — The counterfeit framework that started this series
EP 76: The Hidden Wisdom of God — How the Spirit reveals what the world cannot see
EP 77: God Stopped Me From Saving My Kids — The co-parenting surrender episode
 
CHAPTER MARKERS
0:00 — The seven-word prayer
1:30 — The deceiver you haven’t considered
3:30 — Deception consumes. God creates.
5:30 — The prayer and the first layer
7:30 — What God showed me first
9:30 — The moment the story dismantled
12:30 — The prayer as daily posture
14:30 — He is restoring you, not exposing you
 
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E:77: God Stopped Me From Saving My Kids

I was on a walk telling God what my kids needed. He stopped me mid-sentence and said five words that changed everything.
For years after my divorce I was terrified I was going to give my children the same experience I had growing up.
I watched my own parents spend forty years unable to be in the same room. I knew what that cost. I did not want to give that to my kids. So I held on in my marriage longer than I should have. And when I finally found myself on the other side of it — I gripped harder. I prayed harder. I managed harder.
And God, on a walk, stopped me.
“They are mine before they are yours.”
Five words. And in an instant — humbled and at peace at the same time.
In this episode I’m sharing three things:
The rebuke that changed my job description as a parent. What it looked like to stay surrendered through years of waiting when the circumstances didn’t change. And the moment — in a hospital room — when God kept the word He gave me on that walk.
There is also something about 2 Timothy 1:5 in the close that I have not shared anywhere before. Paul credits one of the greatest ministries in the New Testament to two women. No father mentioned. No intact family structure. Just a grandmother and a mother who were faithful.
Your faithfulness is enough. Not your perfection. Not your control. Your faithfulness.
If you are carrying the weight of your children’s spiritual outcomes, if you are the only one showing up consistently and you are exhausted by it — this episode is for you.
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THIS EPISODE IS FOR YOU IF:
You feel like you are the only one fighting for your children spiritually.
You are terrified of repeating the co-parenting patterns you watched growing up.
You are trying to stay surrendered but the circumstances are not changing and the waiting is exhausting.
You have been confusing stewardship with ownership — and the weight of it is crushing you.
SCRIPTURE REFERENCED
Psalm 139:13-16  ·  Deuteronomy 6:6-7  ·  Lamentations 3:22-23  ·  Isaiah 49:15-16  ·  Psalm 46:10  ·  Joshua 24:15  ·  2 Timothy 1:5
CHAPTER MARKERS
0:00 — God stopped me mid-sentence
1:30 — The rebuke that changed my job description
5:00 — What the waiting actually looked like
9:30 — The moment He proved it was true
12:30 — What your actual job is
14:30 — You are not failing them
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